The effemination of males, in our society is pretty interesting, and, it is under the disguise of professionalism. So, let me give an operational definition of both concepts. Effemination, is the process of educating or training boys or men in ways, which have the traits or characteristics of young girls or women, such as being soft, timid, or  delicate. Professionalism, means being trained in a profession, which is, the acquiring of special knowledge and skills, which distinguishes one from an amateur or laymen, such as a doctor, lawyer, professor, or athlete. The effemination of males in our society, is clearly seen among among highly educated men, because they have been conditioned to believe, that such behavior, constitutes professionalism, when it really does not. As state earlier, professionalism has to do with certain knowledge and skills, and, not behavior and mannerisms. Behavior and mannerism, has to do with social norms, mores, folkways, and etiquette, and, out of these elements, comes one’s values and beliefs, in which some may refer to as their ideology or religion. The effeminate male, is one who is soft spoken, mild, delicate, timid, and, non threatening, so, that he will not offend anyone, because any sign of aggression, might imply that he is being unprofessional. The effeminate male may or may not be gay, and, if he is not gay, he still has the tendency to down play his masculinity, especially, if he is an African American male, working in corporate America. Black men who work in corporate America, as well as in other white collar professions, know that an aggressive black man is very threatening to white males, Uncle Toms, and  Sambo Negros. Ellis Cose, a few years ago, touched on these issues lightly in his book, “The Rage Of The Privileged Class”, in which he exposed the contradictions in amiable mainstream assumptions about racial progress. Cose showed how the largely invisible  black middle-class, who gained material success, did it at the cost of their psychic well-being. The effemination of males in our culture occurs, because there is a notion that a man cannot be educated, and still be masculine, a man cannot be educated, and, at the same time, be a rough neck, a man cannot be educated and at the same time, have a little thug in him.  The effemination of males in our society, is also due to “Satanic Feminism”, which is the belief, that all men are no good, and, that we are all low-down dirty dogs. Most women who adhere to such a belief, are usually lesbians, however, this is not always the case. If a heterosexual male has a female boss or supervisor, who adheres to such a belief, his life on the job, could be very difficult. This is why men who work around women like this, are very mild mannered, so that they will not offend such women in any  form or fashion. For example, I had a colleague who experience this, while teaching at a university. His boss, was a lesbian, and she gave him a very hard time. He ended up getting fired, from that particular college. Let it be understood, however, I am not saying that all lesbians are this way, because I know lesbians who are very hospitable.  The effemination of males in our culture, could also be contributed to, the proliferation of women who take care of sorry and lazy men who do not want to work, and they baby these grown men. Usually, these are women, who have low self esteems, because a female has to have a low self esteem, if she thinks that she has to buy love. By the way, the same analysis can also be applied to men, who take care of grown women, who stay at home and sleep all day, and, I am not talking about women, who have under aged  small children, who needs tending to. The effemination of men in America’s political culture, is becoming more and more prevalent each day.

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