The political mentality of a culture is really hard to break. One major aspect of America’s political culture, is that of many African American women. If one has studied any aspect of racial symbolism, he or she would notice, the confused mentality of most black American women. Notice, I did not say all black women. I said “most or many black women”.  Black women in general, are the only women on planet earth, who have been conditioned by the agents of political socialization to put down their men. They claim that they want a so-called good black man, but, when they meet one, all they do is, try to find fault with him, and, in many cases, will attempt to destory him, and, no thanks to Tyler Perry’s new movie  “For Colored Girls”, which added fuel to the fire.  I often wonder if the black woman is a friend or foe to the black man. The black woman thinks that it is her job to keep the black man in line, especially when working in a predominately white environment. She was born into a political and economic system which has allowed her to prosper over her male counterpart, because she is less of a threat to white males who are in power. Even today in 2010, white males who are in authority, will usually hire a black woman over a black man. Also a lot of black men need to be aware of black women who are always running around saying,  ”all a black man wants is a white woman”, because many of these so-called  sisters are probably behind closed doors screwing white boys for promotions and other so-called fringe benefits on their jobs. As a military child growing up in Europe, and living in different places across the United States, I have had the opportunity to date a variety of women. Today, as a much older man, I can truly say that I have seen a major difference in dating black women, as compared to dating women of other racial backgrounds. Not only this, but, I have also studied the mentality and movements of the African American woman for over 30 years. I have read over 500, books, articles, magazines, newspapers, and journals combined, concerning the black woman. Why?  Because my mother is black, my sisters are black, my aunts, cousins, and nieces are black. Some of the women who I was involved with, were black, and finally, my grandmothers were black. The other reason why I have systematically studies the African American woman, is because one of my master’s degrees is in African American Studies. What is the major difference or differences that I have observed or noticed about black women, as compared to women of other racial background:

 (a) Many black women appear not to be as supportive of their men as women of other racial backgrounds, and, many of them always try to prove how tough or strong they are;

 (b) Many black women have a tendency to be ashamed of black men, especially when they are in a predominately white environment. They will go all out of their way not to speak or recognize them;

 (c) Many black women also have the tendency to be the most demanding women, but have the least to offer and many of them possess the attitude of entitlement;

 (d) Many black women despise black men who are either equal to them in status or who have more status than they do, such as spiritual development, intellectual competency, or economic resources. The notion is, “that nigger thinks that he is something”.

 (e) Many black women cannot see potential afar off. When they meet a black man, they want him to have everything already, such as the cars, clothes, status and money. Many of them do not want to deal with the black man while he is in school struggling, trying to move toward that direction. They want him to have everything already.

 There are, however, a group of black women who I admire and trust a great deal, and, they are the sisters from the Nation of Islam. Even though I am a Christian, I admire these black sisters, because I have noticed, how they constantly built their men up instead of tearing them down. In fact these sisters act more biblical than the Christian women in the church, and, they do not try to disown their black male counterpart in they happen to be in a predominantly white environment, like several of the black educated Christian women do. If a black man has any sense, he should stay away from any  black woman, who he sees constantly skinning and grinning in the white bosses face, because more than likely, she is probably not any good. Do not be deceived neither by her biblical facade nor racial anecdotes, such as praise the Lord or my black brother this and my black brother that, because she will stab you in the back faster than right now and quicker than at once. The so-called black professional woman, Christian or non Christian is dangerous. If a black man should let his guard now, let it be with the sisters from the Nation of Islam, because these sisters genuinely care about the black man, and it does not matter whether he has a G.E.D. or Ph.D.  By no means, am I trying to imply that these black sisters are perfect, but, they do have a track record of being more supportive toward their black male counterparts. African American men must be careful when dealing with many of the so-called professional black women. Except for the black Muslims sisters, black men need to keep their guard up.

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