Politics: The Old Man And Young Woman
A lot of women raise the question, ” why do older men like younger women? I cannot speak for all older men, however, I do think that many older men who are involved, or have been involved with younger women might agree with my elementary analysis. When one is an older man and the woman in his hands is young, he is provoked by the life in her skin and the muscles under her skin. He smells life through the sweet perfume of her sweat. He can sense life in the jittery combustions of her reactions to every new touch and sensation, which rekindles his own fire. He is made to feel alive again, and, he feels excited every time he comes near her. But, the older the man gets, and, the older the woman in his hands becomes, he grows bored and unexcited by the lazy response of her flesh to his touch. Bored by the numb reaction of his own nerves to her flesh. Why? It is like the song of the legendary blues singer B. B. King, “ The Thrill Is Gone” . Just because a man becomes older, does not mean that he likes being with an older woman, anymore than he did when he was young, because it lacks the thrill of novelty or the forbidden. She is just old, and, she reminds him that he is old. But, nothing is like being an older man and having a young woman or youth in one’s hands. She will be thrilled by the novelty of him, and, he will experience her youth and sweetness. To sum it up, the older man feeds off the young woman’s youth, and she feed off of his pocket-book, and the security that he can provide for her. In politics, political scientists refer to this as, ” Quid Pro Quo,” or Exchange Theory. Who knows, maybe older women who date or marry younger men, both think and feel the same way about older men, as older men feel about them. However, there are some disadvantages of dating younger women such as:
(a) younger women usually are at the two extreme ends of the spectrum. Meaning, they with either just want to come around the older man to get stuff or things from him, and, then disappear, and go be with someone else, usually a thug. Or a younger woman will become very obsessive with the older man, and, will not give him any room to breathe, and, she can be very jealous and possessive;
(b) younger women, in many cases are very irresponsible, self centered, and selfish, and, many of them lack basic domestic skills, and, they have the tendency to want to take the older man back through things he has already experience in life.
(c) many younger women, possess the attitude, that they are doing the older man a favor by dating or marrying him, but, outside of sexual relations, most of them do not have anything to offer;
(d) finally, woe to the older man if he becomes sick, because more than likely, the younger woman will run out on him, because she cannot handle responsible, except for a few exceptions.
Basically, when an older man gets involved with a younger woman, it is just a sex thing. By no means, am I saying that a much younger woman cannot truly fall in love with an older man, because she can. I just think it is highly unlikely. As far as the issue of older women and younger men, well one would have to ask them.
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I am a 25 year old woman who has been in a realtionship with a much older man for 5 years. I am in an obsessive type of love with him as descrbed above. I don’t care about his money. I fully support myself finically. I love that he offers me a sense of securtiy, protection, and he has so much wisdom based on life experiences to offer me. The downside of it that he has told me that this relationship will never progress and I worry that when he’s done with me – that I will look back and regret that I spent all of these precious years on a relationship that developed. He is more into the sex and the physical side of the relationship; while I am very interested in the sex – My mistake is being very focused on the emotional. I keep ignoring the obvious and I try to treat this as normal relationship. I agree with Deborah about it being a control issue. I take comfort in him telling me what to do in most situations. However, If I don’t do exactly what he wants me to do all the time then his feelings and love for me become conditional. He will not listen to what I have to say or allow me to have input even in situations that strictly pertain to me. It’s either his way or nothing… and no debating the issue. Despite his shortcommings and our differeces – I still love him very much. I just seems to me that our relationship is off balance… Instead of 50/50 its more like 10/90.
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Well it is true that some older men only want to be with younger women because they feel that they can control them. It is also true that some younger women only want to date older men because they want what the older man can offer them. But there is also love in some of those relationships. My guy is only three years older than me and that’s the way I prefer it. Reason being is because it is of course stated that men take longer to mature than men and that’s what I want. A mature man because some younger guys just want to be kids, not saying that older guys don’t act the same way. I’m just saying every situation is different. Of course those younger women older men and cougar women relationships are frowned upon because of statistics, but who really knows. About the advantages and disadvantages of dating younger women, it’s the same no matter what gender or age difference.
I have never understood the older man-younger woman thing. Maybe it’s because I don’t have “daddy issues.” My father was around when I grew up.
What exactly is the older man looking for anyway, except to somehow control? Sure, she at first must be fun to be seen with, but then a young woman has emotional drama most of the time. Where a middle aged man is usually calm and secure with himself and well established, she is still ‘finding herself.” Then one day she wakes up and she realizes that she’s with this dinosaur. That’s the reason I would think that this kind of relationship would have trouble.
The same can be said with a cougar lady and younger man, though. I find that there would be far too much pressure to maintain a relationship with a much younger man.