Glamour Shots
No old glamour shots please. It is amazing when one is chatting with individuals on the Internet, how they start sending pictures of themselves. The problem that I have with this is that, usually the pictures are not current. In other words, when a woman starts sending me pictures of herself, I do not want them to be photos of her 20 years ago. I want them to be photos of what she looks like right now. Sending me glamour shots of how she looked 20 years ago, is just not going to get it. No high school glamour shots please. I am not concerned that she weighted about 118 in high school and about 127 in college. I want to know how much she weights right now. Anything less than this is deception. No old glamour shots please. What one use to look like and what one use to could do, does not cut it. My question is, ” what does one look like now and what can one do now ? “ I am pretty sure that there are a lot of ladies out there, who feel the same way about the guys that they meet. Can you imagine ladies some guy sending you pictures of himself, being six feet-two and about 185 pounds, and when you finally meet him, he is five feet-nine and 320 pounds? More than likely ladies, you all will be highly dissappointed. Yes, I am very much aware that looks are not everything, but, one should not lie about his or her appearance or profession. Individuals should be honest with themselves, and not conjure up images of themselves which do not exist. No old and out dated glamour shots please.
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I agree with this article, now and days I find it funny how far people will go for love, attention, and confidence. It’s entertaining now because it’s a show on MTV called catfish that basically puts people on blast just for portraying another individual whether it’s there selves from 20 years ago or someone else that looks like a barbie or Ken.
This is so funny but true people seem to do this all the time, that they even have a show about it (Catfish). I think people should be honest and keep it real. i think people who do this have some kind of self-esteem issue and are not happy with themselves. i do not understand why people do it because sooner or later their lies will be discovered. i also feel that lying can led to someone’s feelings being hurt and that does not led to a healthy relationship. If people are not happy with themselves they should do something to change it, instead of lying about it.
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I 100 percent with the article above. Online dating is very common now with all the new technologies. The media does advertise online dating a lot. Now they have a dating sites with every type of race and even religious background. People need to be honest when writing there profile on line and put a picture that is most recent. I think it is sad when a person portrays another person online. For some people it is hard to find someone who they can love and trust. I feel people don’t want to be alone forever so they sign up for online dating and some do find love and others appear to be in a hoax for an example Manti Teo. He was a heisman trophy finalist. This could happen to anybody. People need to be aware who they are talking to behind a computer screen.
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I strongly agrree, these days you never know what you might be getting your self in to. Photoshop is also an essential tool in today’s life. I do believe the majority of women tend to send pictures from many years ago this is more like false advertising. Individuals that do this obviously have a low self esteem issues. People should be hosesty about their appearance.
This is very interesting article of our time, so called computor age. People get to find people on line for friendship or dating. During the process of chating and getting to know each other they want to exchange photos and they send the most glamourous photos of themselves, when they were in their teens, skinny, and pretty. While presntly, they must be middle age and over weight, but it all right, relationship should based upon truthfulness and good foundation. In my opinon, exchanging old glamour shots is very deceiving, untruthful for building a relationship. So it will be wise when ladied or gentlemen exchange their photographs it should be recent ones.
I agree with this Dr. I feel that a large deal of this comes from social media. Have you ever heard of a “catfish”? No, not the bottom feeder fish at the bottom of the lake; but, a person who pursues a relationship with someone through the internet under a false identity. Pretty sick, right? Well, getting back to your point, people feel more secure behind a screen, and those old glamour shots. Social media has given people a way to portray themselves as they want to be seen; and coincidently, has make people socially awkward when they are in public or have to meet someone in person.
Internet chatting may be the only way some people socialize with others. Low self esteem could be the cause of someone faking their identity over the internet. Internet relationships are not the safest because, you really don’t know the person’s appearance unless you actually meet in person. I believe that honesty in any type of relationship is important. You should not be ashamed of how you look, there is a match for every type of person, regardless of your physical. Even if you try to cover up who you really are by sending old glamour shots, the truth will eventually reveal itself. The best way to build a strong foundation in a relationship is to be very honest about one another including current photos of eachother.
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I have a completely different take on this issue. I feel that these women see the interent as a way for people who normally would not give them the time of day, let alone be unsuperficaial long enough to get to know the women’s true personality, a chance to present themselves without immediate rejection. Getting to know someone through the internet gives a person the chance to show others the inside of themselves vs. being rejected in person because of their outward appearence without ever getting that oppurtunity.
Perhaps one major reason these women do this is in hopes of finding someone to fall in love with them for who they really are and eventually when the time comes to finally meet face-to-face the other person will be able to look past outward appearence and they can live happily ever after… Sadly, I’m sure that is not the outcome in 99% of situations like this.
I think the bigger issue here is societies shallow, unrealistic expectations being put on women. It’s sad that women feel the need to present pictures of someone other than themself just to get someone to talk to them and show them some attention. In the end we’re ALL going to be old and ugly someday and by that time hopefully you have found a companion who loves you for you because looks will no longer matter anyways.
I agree completely with this article. The problem with society today is that people are so fixated on self image that they would do anything to convince someone they look different then they really do. Now a lot of the blame actually goes to todays media. The media pre motes beauty in such a specific way. The magazines, movies and commercials are constantly pushing people into thinking they are not good enough. Cover pages scream in bold, “get skinnier”, “be a size 2″, “look like these celebrities” . But what people do not realize is that it is not worth lying about the way they look just so others will they they are handsome or beautiful. If you do not think highly of yourself then really and honestly nobody will. Social media makes it extremely difficult to lie about who you are but especially what you look like. Honesty is not a quality that everyone posses. People need to be aware of the consequences that come with lying or cheating people into thinking you are someone you are not. In the end you are just lying to yourself.
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That is a true statement please,please no glamour shots. Why do people want to express themselves as an old image are that not happy with themselves. So many people are not happy with themselves and do nothing about it. People can always stay fit and healthy then they can look like they did in their earlier years.
Whatever you are is what you want to be, fat, thin, ugly or cute. People need to love who they are if they hair is short and they want long hair buy you some. We live in a society that you can buy everything hair, nose,lips,breast,face lifts basically whatever you don’t have you can buy. Stop making yourself look like a fool with these when you was young and now old and did not take care of yourself.
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This topic is extremely funny with alot of honesty and truth! I have been guilty of sending pictures of myself that I took a year or two and sometimes three just because those were better pictures. Let me clarify, I was not searching for a date online but if a gentleman asked for a picture of me I had a habit of sending the same two or three outdated photos. I did not realize the true discrepancy of my true appearance and the photos until actually looking at the before and after photos. My face ,of course, had matured from a young girls face to a woman’s face. Looking and thinking back, the entire experience is comical! At such a young age non of this really mattered because I wasn’t seariously dating. Now that I am older and my priorities have changed from a girls to a young woman’s, I see things differently. My personal take on the matter is, if I am hoping for Prince Charming to meet me one day and sweep me off of my feet, I could at least have the decency to reveal my current beauty off hand!
I totally agree your view on this subject. I recently went on a date through Match.com and was speaking with a gentleman who presented himself well on the internet, handsome, had a job, made a certain amount of money and likes dogs. Well I went on the date, I walked right past him because he did not look like the picture on the internet. He looked about 20 years older. He smelled of smoke and his clothes were unclean and they too smelled. I was so embarrassed I did not want anyone to see me with this guy. I decided to be cordial and at least have a quick drink and get out of there. I asked him about his job and he said he hasn’t work in about 4 years OMG, I could not believe it. He also does not like dogs, I have two and on the internet I specifically stated they must like dogs. I made up a reason why I had to get out of there and I wanted to pay for my drink and leave. He insisted on paying and I ran out of the restaurant. When I got home, I changed my statement on Match.com to say that I mean what I say that I am not interested in past pictures and what you used to do. When you say you are a certain age, like the same things I like, you work and so forth, mean it. After a couple of days I have decided to cancel my subscription and try dating the old fashion way for now.