Ebonics: The Twelve Steps Of Hoe Anonymous
Many in our society, are very familiar with Alcohol Anonymous, and, its twelve basic steps. There are A.A. meetings, all across this nation, for individuals who have allowed alcohol to get out of control in their lives. However, I, the Bowtie Professor, has come up with another twelve step program, in which I think, is very much needed in our society today, and that is, ”Hoe Anonymous”. Yes, I am very much aware, that the correct spelling of the word is “whore”, and not “hoe”, but, I want the concept to have an ebonical ring to it. Unlike alcohol, being a hoe would not be considered as an addiction by some, for three basic reasons. First, men are taught to be hoes, through the agents of political socialization in America, especially in the mass media. Men are constantly bombarded with sexual connotations, both implicit and explicit, and, as young boys growing up to adolescents, males have been conditioned, by our society, to go out and have all the sex that they can, because that is what makes them men, and,when these young men engage in such actions, they will gain a great deal of praise and respect from their peers. Women on the other hand, are conditioned to be hoes in another way, and, that is, by using sex as a tool, to control and manipulate men. It is more like a cat and mouse game. The second reason, why many would not consider, being a hoe, as a problem, is due to the fact that, it has been an unwritten code in our society, which says, ” that is what men do”. Historically, in the United States, when a man had more than one woman, he was labeled as a, playboy, ladies’ man, player, womanizer, or hoe. There are a great deal of women in our society who are hoes as well, but, they are more discreet with theirs, because of the double standards, that exist in our culture. A man can go out and mess around with different women, and, in many cases, get away with it, but, if a woman does the same thing, she is ostracized. The third reason, why some will not perceive, that being a hoe is an addiction, is because, it appears to be a normal way of life, for many Americans. However, if one does not think that being a hoe is not an addiction or problem, then he or she may want to ask, Tiger Wood’s wife, U.S. Senator, John Edward’s wife, David Letterman’s wife, the Rev. Jesse Jackson’s, wife, former governor of Arkansas and President of the United States, Bill Clinton’s wife, South Carolina Governor, Mark Sanford’s wife, and the list could go on and on. The twelve steps of Hoe Anonymous, is as follows:
(1) The individual must admit that he or she is a hoe, based on a biblical perspective.
(2) The individual must want to get set free from being a hoe, and, needs to understand, that this freedom can only come through Jesus Christ.
(3) The individual must allow the Holy Spirit to change him or her, to the point where both sexes, see each other, as beautiful creations of God and not just sex objects,
(4) The individual must ask God for forgiveness, as well as all those who were affected, by his or her hoe ways.
(5) As much as possible, the individual must stay away from persons, places, or things, that will feed on his or her hoe appetite.
(6) The individual must have a consisted prayer life, and needs to understand that, change will not come overnight.
(7) The individual must be prepared, to take criticism, from those who he or she use to get their freak on with.
(8) The individual must constantly, remind his or herself, that there is no glorification in being a hoe.
(9) The person must constantly, ask the Lord, to help him or her, to overcome their imperfections.
(10) Once, the person begins to see his or herself, being set free, by the power of the Holy Spirit, he or she must not be like a dog that returns to his own vomit again.
(11) After being set free, the person must share, his or her testimony, with other hoes, so, that they too can be set free.
(12) Finally, the person must constantly praise God for all of his goodness and mercy, that He has bestowed upon him or her.
According to the Biblical School of thought, a hoe is anyone who has had sexual relations with someone, outside of the institution of marriage. Many people in our society, think that being a hoe, means someone who has had many sex partners. This quite naturally, would be a worldly definition. But from a biblical perspective, it means sexual activities outside of marriage. Therefore, I would hypothesize, that about 95% , of Americans are hoes, both males and females. However, most of them would not consider themselves to be hoes, because they are looking at it from a worldly perspective. For an example, if John Doe has been dating Mary Jane for two years, and, they both have been faithful toward one another, our society would look upon them, as upright respectable citizens, even though they are sexually active, but yet, are not married. But according to the holy scriptures, both John and Mary are hoes, and, I say to the person who happens to be reading this, “are you sexually active, outside the institution of marriage” ? Because if you are, then you are a hoe, until you ask for forgiveness and repent, to the living God. I, the Bowtie Professor, had to repent for my whorish ways, and, I keep repentance in my mouth. Remember, the truth will always set a person free.
The Bowtie Professor Speaks!
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Wow this post really opened my eyes. i mean this is information that i have already known but when it was worded like that it really makes me look at myself differently. Like why am i still doing it if i know that it is wrong according to God’s word? The way society is today it feel as if i am being dared to do what i do. I need to get more ground in my faith and start living according to the gospel.
Well, we all have our different opinions about what a “Whore” or “Hoe” really is but, deep down we know just what makes us a “Hoe”. Those that have lived the life of a hoe can spot others that have lived the same life as well as those that are still living their life as a hoe. Some decide to live life as a hoe because, they are simply looking for love. This is “Not” I repeat this is “Not” the path to true love. If you desire true love maybe you should first learn to truly love and adore yourself! Because, when you learn to love yourself you want settle for anything or anyone. Next, we have those that live the life as a hoe because, in some point of their life they were hurt really bad; and they have actually made a vow to themselves to never let anyone hurt them again. The problem with this is while keeping others from hurting them they are hurting themselves by abusing their bodies but, the greatest danger is the abuse of their minds! We all must understand that we are going to have many disappointments in life and they can not be solved with sexual acts or thoughts; you must ask God to help you to endure all things just as any other addiction this to can be conquered. If you desire to be kept you can and will be a kept person for those of you that don’t know what this means it means to live life without sex! OH! yes it can be done if this is what you desire. Also, there are some that live the life as a hoe simply because they really just do not care about themselves or others which is really a sad state of mind for one to be in,this person is truly a danger not only to themselves but, to all those around them! If you are one that is struggling with this addiction there’s help for you maybe you don’t want anyone to know that you have this problem there’s someone that you can talk to and don’t have to worry about him talking about your problem with noone other than you. His name is Jesus! He’s waiting for your call
Pimps, playboys, sluts and so on are all hoes! This world has always been filled with sins and this fact will never change. Even 15 year old have had sexual relationships in this world. I’m not only talking about young aged girls but guys as well. Incouragement from father to son has happened and also from homeboy to homeboy. Sometimes when one tries to follow the Christian road and be a virgen till they are married are sometimes pressured to have a sexual relationship with a women or even pay a women to just keep his manhood title. Siner or none siner, one is never perfict and lack on the truth and beliefs of either Christans or catholics.
It is easy to catergorize others without understanding why they chose to do certain acts they may have found necessary to servive in this world. The hardest endevor is to remove the jacket that has been placed upon these individuals shoulders remaining unbiased. This website allows ordinary people to exxpress their personal feeelings twards current issues. It also informs its readers about social issues.
I don’t necessarily think that if you have sex before marriage you should be considered a “hoe”. If you are in a committed relationship with somebody, you should be able to keep it safe and private. When you stay true to somebody and focus only on that one person in your relationship (married or not), why would you get pulled into the same category as people who sleep around with anyone they aren’t tied to?
I do agree that people often have sex too freely and that this should not be an acceptable thing. People, young and old, should be more respectful of themselves and not share their bodies with others so freely, whether they are male or female. I know I have tried to teach my children the value of obstaining from sex, for both moral and health reasons. But it seems to be a lesson that falls on deaf ears. Perhaps if we did have a hoes anonymous, we could help some people, and better to help some, than to help none.
Unfortunatly in todays society marriage isn’t really the first thing in a couples mind before they interact sexually. Its a shame but alot of people have their opinion that marriage is just a piece of paper that they both sign. Society today believes in Jesus and his belief, but not in the words that are described when it comes to marriage, and waiting on having sexual relationships. I dont believe that this idea would work; simply because females or males would feel judged. Or feel like they are not doing anything wrong because they have been with the same person for so long, it doesnt seem wrong, but it’s not right without marriage.
Well I am in withthe professor, I believe it is an addiction that can only be broken with Gods help. Also very important to help them set free is for them willing to come and give up all their junk. Anything can become addiction, sex, alcohol, friends ect. This can also be named idulatry, wich means when someone or something goes first, or put in Gods position. A sport can as well become an addiction, but now we are talking about sex, this is the grates sin, i do believe all around the world! different people do it for different reason, but it u is as it is, it is a mess up and a screw up from both men and women. When all the fun of it is gone all you have is a hurt temple.. Gods temple, becouse we are Gods temple. We mess with our body, we mes with Gods property!
Being a hoe is a double standard in this country that is true. but in todays society it is becoming more acceptable due to media and other influences such as music and movies. in my opinion being a “hoe” is someone who looks for love in the wrong places. now that being said i wont get religious on anybody or anything but do as you will your reputation will proceed you.
I toatlly agree on this men want to see how many or how much they can get and when the one person they want to share thier live with has to hear about all the other people they have been with. I have a friend that is like that he even tried to get me in the number but i was hip tp his game. men should respect themselves just like women should respect them selves
I agree , most of the time If a guy is a hoe or hoe’s around in other guys eyes and most ceases there friends eyes its Hi-five for the guy because he is a player. Then when it comes to a female , and if she hoe’s around and people know about it she starts to be known as a slut. This generation has gone way south and has forgotten and or lost so much respect for one another when it comes to sex. Now its okay to have sex all the time and every time with more then one person because of so many different things that’s gone wrong in this society.
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I really like the idea of this program. I think almost everyone is aware of the doulble standard and find it silly, but it is so dominate that we still judge by it. I believe that going from girl to girl or guy to guy is practicing for divorce and affairs. I like the open verbage of bibical principals. I think this 12 step program could be renamed to be the 12 step program for many other problems and addictions. I like the non suger coated definition of “hoe”, not just those that sleep around with a lot of people, but those that have sex outside of wedlock. Society is constantly trying to blur the line between black and white and shift the ok and norm further and further.
I feel like the media and peers have a great deal of influence on our youth today that encourages them to have sex with multiple partners. The people who are suppose to be role models such as presidents, celebrities, pastors, etc., are being “hoes” and our youth are observing their behaviors. There are even certain religions that allow the men to have more than one wife and have many children with these wives. I know that there was only one perfect man and we are all sinners, but at some point we have to, like you said, “repent” and strive to be better. You speak about the 12 steps of Hoe Anonymous, but let us not forget about the 10 Commandments.
I feel that the media and our peers do a great deal of damage toward our moral minded selves. Pressure makes us do things that we do not always want to do and i dont really consider any of my friends a “hoe” i just think sometimes they make poor decisions in their actions and they should relize the consequences and think if they are really doing the right thing. We are all sinners but we all have choices as well and if you really stop and think before you do something then the circumstances might come out diffrently and our lives might turn out for the better.
Following the rule of no sex before marriage is now considered by many an impossible quest. I believe that not many people are aware what a “hoe” is delianeated by the Bible, especially the youth. Traditions and cultures take a great deal of the outcome of their development in the young adult of an individual. Half may come from their temperament, but nurture can modify them by conditioning. Believing and accepting a the mythical norms within current society has also put an advantage as to the increase number of “Hoes” today.
I do not see this as a old or new problem. With our generation having quick access to everything, being connected with other people in discussions of labeling people hoes or players has become common. Stories of infidelity in couples are always entertaining in the media. Having it happen to us gives us reasons to find the twelve steps of Hoe Anonymous. Having to mature and find a reason to be in a relationship is never the same for everyone. It is seen in both high and low social class people, having to deal with our private lives and having it broadcast around through friends just fuels on the issue of having people being hoes.
Although that is the true definition of hoe that you stated was in the bible, in today’s society we don’t go by that term, but whether we use the bibical way or today’s society way,majority of the people today would be considered hoes. in today’s society being a hoe is a good thing, whether for man or for women. Women are sleeping around whether its with there significant other or if its just something they do for fun to fulfill their need at the moment, either the way it go, you’re a hoe…no matter how you word it or flip it. you can tell who are hoes just by looking at them or whether or not they have a child. Kids are dropping babies like turds. having a sex and having a baby is whats in today,but they don’t know they make themselves look bad and people are going to look at you like a hoe, because you’re still young and more than likely you;re not going to be with your babydaddy forever and you will have a baby by somebody else…..and I don’t think we should blame it on peer pressure. ypu have enough will power to say no. If you give in that easily it was something you wanted. People use the word hoe loosely as if they were calling them by name. If you let someone who is a friend call you a hoe then everybody else will think it’s ok and you must be one!! LEARN HOW TO KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSE AND USE YOUR HEAD FOR A CHANGE!!
Society today is not like 20 or 30 years ago. People now are becoming more modern and leaving our the purity and significants of marriage. In this generation everything come easy access to just about anyone. The Biblical school has almost very minimum affect on actions today. It seems as if the biblical words have been left aside. The modern “hoe” does infact affect the society over all and women tend to have the worst reaction upon being discovered. Men tend to see it as being a normal stage of life. People now in days have sexual intercourses because of fear of being left out and trying to fittin and just plain curiousity. If people believe they are grow enough to start having sex they should also be willing to stand up to the outcomes of the consequences. Teenage girls are having kids at a young age and that is just plain ignorant and dumb. A child is responsibility not a moment of pleasure mistake. Y A hoe can not justify you as fitting in it just means you are a careless person. Remember A DOLLAR
Society today is not like 20 or 30 years ago. People now are becoming more modern and leaving our the purity and significants of marriage. In this generation everything come easy access to just about anyone. The Biblical school has almost very minimum affect on actions today. It seems as if the biblical words have been left aside. The modern “hoe” does infact affect the society over all and women tend to have the worst reaction upon being discovered. Men tend to see it as being a normal stage of life. People now in days have sexual intercourses because of fear of being left out and trying to fittin and just plain curiousity. If people believe they are grow enough to start having sex they should also be willing to stand up to the outcomes of the consequences. Teenage girls are having kids at a young age and that is just plain ignorant and dumb. A child is responsibility not a moment of pleasure mistake. Protection can be obtained everywhere. A hoe can not justify you as fitting in it just means you are a careless person. Remember A DOLLAR can prevent a disease and it can prevent you from bringing an unexpected pregnancy..
It is true. I don’t think it’s right to automatically accuse a female of being a hoe jsut becuase they are doing the same thing as a male, even then it’s not even close to what a man is doing. Males should be called a hoe straight up just like they call a female a hoe. BUT!!!! I also would blame the female, most females, or at least a great amount, LOVE to put their information out there. if they do not want to be called a hoe, they should not put their business out there in the first place. If they want to avoid being called that and judged, they should keep things to themselves and not portray themselves as that image.
I agree with most of this article. I believe the world sees more women as hoes, rather tha men. Also,I do agree with the fact that women do put more of it out there. Alot of women in our society today are low n modesty and do not give a flying flip about what people think of them and how they are portrayed, therefore they jus go tell anyone willing to listen about their business. If someone who has sexual relations outside of marriage with ONE person and ends up marrying them is still considered a hoe, I still believe there is dfference between that hoe and the hoe that has sexual relations with anyone off the street. But thats just my personal opinion.
As I read this article I thought to myself how the worlds perception has an impact on us as humans. You have, using Gods word, spoke truth. Some many people in todays society think of the word hoe and sterotypically assume that it’s some girl who has slept around alot. But biblically you have shown that both men and women can be hoes. Anyone who has had sexual relations outside of marriage is hoe. Sadly, having sex outside of marriage has become the norm in todays society. As a high school student I hear alot of things that shock me. Girls who I once knew to be “good” are having sex. Even some of my closet friends who are christians have sexual relations with the opposite sex. It amazes me how soooo many have gotten away from Gods covenant. Marriage come first then sex. Thank you so much for opening my eyes. I never have thought of the definition of the word hoe biblically, I’ve only thought of from the worlds perspective. It goes to show, that whatever you to do/think should be according to Gods word for it is truth.