Many in our society, are very familiar with Alcohol Anonymous, and, its twelve basic steps. There are A.A. meetings, all across this nation, for individuals who have allowed alcohol to get out of control in their lives. However, I, the Bowtie Professor, have come up with another twelve step program, in which I think, is very much needed in our society today, and that is, ”Hoe Anonymous”. Yes, I am very much aware, that the correct spelling of the word is “whore”, and not “hoe”, but, I want the concept to have an ebonical ring to it. Unlike alcohol, being a hoe would not be considered as an addiction by some, for three basic reasons. First, men are taught to be hoes, through the agents of political socialization in America, especially in the mass media. Men are constantly bombarded with sexual connotations, both implicit and explicit, and, as young boys growing up to adolescents, males have been conditioned, by our society, to go out and have  all the sex that they can, because that is what makes them men, and,when these young men engage in such actions, they will gain a great deal of praise and respect from their peers. Women on the other hand, are conditioned to be hoes in another way, and, that is, by using sex as a tool, to control and manipulate men. It is more like a cat and mouse game. The second reason, why many would not consider, being a hoe, as a problem, is due to the fact that, it has been an unwritten code in our society, which says, ” that is what men do”. Historically, in the United States, when a man had more than one woman, he was labeled as a, playboy, ladies’ man, player, womanizer, or hoe.  There are a great deal of women in our society who are hoes as well, but, they are more discreet with theirs, because of the double standards, that exist in our culture. A man can go out and mess around with different women, and, in many cases, get away with it, but, if a woman does the same thing, she is ostracized. The third reason, why some will not perceive, that being a hoe is an addiction, is because, it appears to be a normal way of life, for many Americans. However, if one does not think that being a hoe  is not an addiction or problem, then he or she may want to ask, Tiger Wood’s wife, U.S. Senator, John Edward’s wife, David Letterman’s wife, the Rev. Jesse Jackson’s, wife, former governor of Arkansas and President of the United States, Bill Clinton’s wife, South Carolina Governor, Mark Sanford’s wife, and the list could go on and on. The twelve steps of Hoe Anonymous, is as follows:

(1) The individual must admit that he or she is a hoe, based on a biblical perspective.

(2) The individual must want to get set free from being a hoe, and, needs to understand, that this freedom can only come through Jesus Christ.

(3) The individual must allow the Holy Spirit to change him or her, to the point where both sexes, see each other, as beautiful creations of God and not just sex objects,

(4) The individual must ask God for forgiveness, as well as all those who were affected, by his or her hoe ways.

(5)  As much as possible, the individual must stay away from persons, places, or things, that will feed on his or her hoe appetite.

(6) The individual must have a consisted prayer life, and needs to understand that, change will not come overnight.

(7) The individual must be prepared, to take criticism, from those who he or she use to get their freak on with.

(8) The individual must constantly, remind his or herself, that there is no glorification in being a hoe.

(9) The person must constantly, ask the Lord, to help him or her, to overcome their imperfections.

(10) Once, the person begins to see his or herself, being set free, by the power of the Holy Spirit, he or she must not be like a dog that returns to his own vomit again.

(11) After being set free, the person must share, his or her testimony, with other hoes, so, that they too can be set free.

(12) Finally, the person must constantly praise God for all of his goodness and mercy, that He has bestowed upon him or her.

  According to the Biblical School of thought, a hoe is anyone who has had sexual relations with someone, outside of the institution of marriage. Many people in our society, think that being a hoe, means someone who has had many sex partners. This quite naturally, would be a worldly definition. But from a biblical perspective, it means sexual activities outside of marriage.  Therefore, I would hypothesize, that about 95% , of Americans are hoes, both males and females. However, most of them would not consider themselves to be hoes, because they are looking at it from a worldly perspective. For an example, if John Doe has been dating Mary Jane for two years, and, they both have been faithful toward one another, our society would look upon them, as upright respectable citizens, even though they are sexually active, but yet, are not married. But according to the holy scriptures, both John and Mary are hoes, and, I say to the person who happens to be reading this, “are you sexually active, outside the institution of marriage” ? Because if you are, then you are a hoe, until you ask for forgiveness and repent, to the living God.  I, the Bowtie Professor, had to repent for my whorish ways, and, I keep repentance in my mouth. Remember, the truth will always set a person free.

 The Bowtie Professor Speaks!

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