The Effemination Of Males
The effemination of males, in our society is pretty interesting, and, it is under the disguise of professionalism. So, let me give an operational definition of both concepts. Effemination, is the process of educating or training boys or men in ways, which have the traits or characteristics of young girls or women, such as being soft, timid, or delicate. Professionalism, means being trained in a profession, which is, the acquiring of special knowledge and skills, which distinguishes one from an amateur or laymen, such as a doctor, lawyer, professor, or athlete. The effemination of males in our society, is clearly seen among among highly educated men, because they have been conditioned to believe, that such behavior, constitutes professionalism, when it really does not. As state earlier, professionalism has to do with certain knowledge and skills, and, not behavior and mannerisms. Behavior and mannerism, has to do with social norms, mores, folkways, and etiquette, and, out of these elements, comes one’s values and beliefs, in which some may refer to as their ideology or religion. The effeminate male, is one who is soft spoken, mild, delicate, timid, and, non threatening, so, that he will not offend anyone, because any sign of aggression, might imply that he is being unprofessional. The effeminate male may or may not be gay, and, if he is not gay, he still has the tendency to down play his masculinity, especially, if he is an African American male, working in corporate America. Black men who work in corporate America, as well as in other white collar professions, know that an aggressive black man is very threatening to white males, and, Uncle Tom, Sambo Negros. Ellis Cose, a few years ago, touched on these issues lightly in his book, “The Rage Of The Privileged Class”, in which he exposed the contradictions in amiable mainstream assumptions about racial progress. Cose showed how the largely invisible black middle-class, who gained material success, did it at the cost of their psychic well-being. The effemination of males in our culture occurs, because there is a notion that a man cannot be educated, and still be masculine, a man cannot be educated, and, at the same time, be a rough neck, a man cannot be educated and at the same time, have a little thug in him. The effemination of males in our society, is also due to “Satanic Feminism”, which is the belief, that all men are no good, and, that we are all low-down dirty dogs. Most women who adhere to such a belief, are usually lesbians, however, this is not always the case. If a heterosexual male has a female boss or supervisor, who adheres to such a belief, his life on the job, could be very difficult. This is why men who work around women like this, are very mild mannered, so that they will not offend such women in any form or fashion. For example, I had a colleague who experience this, while teaching at a university. His boss, was a lesbian, and she gave him a very hard time. He ended up getting fired, from that particular college. Let it be understood, however, I am not saying that all lesbians are that way, because I know lesbians who are very hospitable. The effemination of males in our culture, could also be contributed to, the proliferation of women who take care of sorry and lazy men who do not want to work, and, thus, they baby these grown men. Usually, these are women, who have low self esteems, because a female has to have a low self esteem, if she thinks that she has to buy love. By the way, the same analysis can also be applied to men, who take care of grown women, who stay at home and sleep all day, and, I am not talking about women, who have under aged small children, who needs tending to. The effemination of men in America’s political culture, is becoming more and more prevalent each day.
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It seems to me that there is some unresolved issues with men like this. I have seen men act so strange as if there tongue was tide when another woman came around and they were married. I call these men lopsided men because they are not comfortable with their own identity, so they will seek out the women who will be a mother to them in respect. For so long men know how to dog out their wife and kids when they get home, but the woman get told yes sir, and no sir, but the wife get cussed out just for asking the brother to take out the trash. A lot of Lesbians have hatred towards men, and they will dog out everyman just to get at the one who hurt them, so maybe that is what happened to your friend. I can say this for a fact, because I knew this one Lesbian who was married before, and she had children by her husband and he dogged her out, and my friend flip the script and started liking women,and that is when I had to dissolve our friendship. She was so bitter that she became violent with men, she took a boxing class and told me that if a brother beat up on her again she will be prepared to whoop his, you know what. I mean she started working out and she really became a man,a nd along with it ,violence. However, there are some men who are tootie fruities ,and they talk on and on and on, till you wonder to yourself,”Do I as woman talk that dang on much? Oh yeas Professor BowTie I agree, there is something really going wrong with the culture we live in.
January 23, 2010
I argree with you in this article. This is just my personal opinion: I have a son, and I have taught him how to be respectful, and how to act. I told him there is a time and place for everything. I have taught my son to act a certain way in certain situations. But I don’t believe a man should have any, any, feminine ways. He should be masculine at all times.
Yes he can downplay his masculinity when the time comes with his wife, fiance’e, or girlfriend. But when he is around his buddies he should be free and be himself. I have always taught my son, to never be something that your’e not . Don’t be fake with yourself…..But also don’t be ghetto (which we are) in a crowd of caucasins, or any other race, so they can sit back and stare at you like you were an object or for entertaining.
Me myself, I don’t like a soft spoken man. And the man has to have a lil thug in him. My son is that. He attends PRairie View College, and it was a reality shock for him at first. He went down there with his pants hanging off his butt (which I hate)..but now he dresses differently, and thinks intelligently.
But when he comes home, he feels free…He returns back to his old self for the short period of time he is here, then he returns with that college swag about himself.
Like you said in these days in our society there are more males that become effeminate. I believe that one must see it as a common thing in society. the fact that a man mus love a woman or vise verse does not mean that it has to be that way. Now our country is free and it’s been free since many years ago. Everyone is free to choose who they will love and who they won’t.
I can understand your point, but I do not agree. You are insinuating if a man is effeminate, he is not masculine, then he must be gay. Every individual has an opinion of what masculinity means to him or her. There are women who are not soft spoken nor are they tender and soft. By no means does this mean she is any less of a woman. In the same way, if a man is soft spoken and reserved does not indicate he is not masculine.
There are little boys in my cradle roll class -nineteen through twenty-four months- at church who play with dolls and doll carriages. They have not yet been conditioned by society to believe dolls are only for girls. Some of the little girls in my cradle roll class play with building tools, such as plastic hammers and bulldozers. My piont is, society dictates how men and women should behave, and if they do not fit into that stereotype, there must be something wrong with them.
I am a strong believer in the fact GOD made man to be the hunter and provider and women to be the caregiver and nurturing. Men can be providers and leaders of their households without being aggressive and obstinate. There are men who are born with a quite and demure disposition and that should be enough.
I can understand your point. This is the way society has become. These days you have the effemination of males or as I have heard them called the metrosexuals. Today allot of younger women have a tendency to be attracted to men that have a less manly look to them. I mean look at the movies twilight, young ladies go crazy for the guy. I think the reason you see this in the work place is because of men being so scared of sexual harassment charges. They figure if they can associate in this way, they are less threatening. The lesbian thing I’m not too sure about. I have known several lesbians and have yet to get that vibe from them.
I cannot stand these sorry ass soft negroes. It is so hard to find a strong, educated, masculine man that knows how to handle his business. They are a very rare breed and so they have a lot of options when it comes to dating. I have a son and i refuse to let him grow up and jump from woman to woman because he cant hold his own. I applaud the dumb broads who do take care of these men because somebody’s gotta do, it sure as hell won’t be me.
I do believe that men should not act different just to keep a job and that being effeminated is due to all of this facts given in this blog but i have also seen personally that when there are just women in the house and one child that grows with nothing with women, might himself adapt to the character around him and sooner or later find himself effeminize but in this case the father has the responsabilitiy to talk to the child and give him advice. Efeminize men should understand a different concept of proffesionalism that not necessarily has to convert him or her into a different character almost and opposite gender just to comply with the mores or folkways of the people around him/her.
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A man can be a little feminine but still be a man and take care of his. If a black man has just a touch of feminism in him then black men and woman automatically label him as being gay. I always hear black women say I wish he could understand where I’m coming from, or I wish he could be in my shoes, or I wish he could treat me right and do for me, but when he does do it and he isn’t all rough and thuggish and ghetto she assumes he is gay. But that’s not the case the case is that she is use to dealing with ghetto thuggish people that all she see is a soft man is coming long and treating her right but she don’t want him cause he is a lil soft. That’s ignorance on her part, if he treating you right and he is a lil soft then there should be no problem.
I agree. What it means to be a man has become distorted in America over what seems the past hundred years. Today our society gives males two choices either be a “Strong” but, vulger, unmannered, moronic “Manly Man” or an “Educated” but effeminate, wimpish, whiny, utterly useless, one who only reads what is popular among equaly effeminate and educated people, makes generalizations, afraid of what others think “Enlightened Male”. Gone are such notions that men can be warrior poets, Liberaly educated men that demonstrate the Greek virtue of Arete, Thinkers that bravely face persecution for the truth, Artists but still be incredibly masculine, have deep unbreakable bonds of friendship with other men, demonstrate all your emotions while still being Masculine, or the chivalrous gentleman. Not only Men but Women can no longer be what God created them to be. We live in a world where men cannot be like King David or Socrates and Women cannot be like the Prophetess Deborah or Esther.